In the beginning I was angry and I still am , but have come to realize that I don't want him to recieve the
DEATH PENALTY!!!! My hope is that he recieve 4 LIFE SENTANCES WITH NO POSSIBILITY OF PAROLE!!!!
He will then have to go into the general population of the prison and face the inmates.

Bobcat

why ask the question if u don't want the answer ? ...no none of these comments are disturbing it is the way we feel ... i cannot even begin to think of a punishment great enough for what this monster has done ... it tears my heart out when i look at those babies pictures ...HELL'S NOT HOT ENOUGH FOR THAT MONSTER AND WHAT HE HAS DONE

bamagirl...........you are hilarious and twisted..............This is why most people believe in a higher power to handle the judgements instead of people like you who think they have ALL the ANSWERS...........

Bobcat, I respect some of your opinion but evidently you have never lost a child or have never known the love of a child because believe me all the time in the world could never heal this wound for this mother that her four children was murdered in such a way by the man she was in love with. my sister lost a child in 1988 and she still cries everyday. We lost our mother in July I cry everyday I could not imagine losing one of my children this way never the less four. May God Bless this Mother and Family

decemberRose - 17 January 2008 09:17 PM

Bobcat, I respect some of your opinion but evidently you have never lost a child or have never known the love of a child because believe me all the time in the world could never heal this wound for this mother that her four children was murdered in such a way by the man she was in love with. my sister lost a child in 1988 and she still cries everyday. We lost our mother in July I cry everyday I could not imagine losing one of my children this way never the less four. May God Bless this Mother and Family

decemberRose my friend, let me tell you a little bit of what you don't know. I will start by telling you I did have a child at one time in my life but I lost him as well as two other members of my family by a drunk driver. It was by far the most difficult thing I had ever gone through until I started going through the "Anger Stage" of my healing process. Then I realized I would not spend the rest of my life thinking about the "woulda, shoulda, coulda's" so I forgave the person who caused me this grief and replaced the "HATE" with the loving memories of my family. This is why it bothers me to see all of the hate being generated by people who as you say may have no idea what they are saying. I think that time does heal wounds because the pain I felt the day of the accident is nowhere as painful as today's pain. Time heals but it doesn't erase the pain. I also didn't request someone killing him by another drunk driver in order to engage a pattern of revenge nor did I ask for the portion of I-65 be named in honor of them. They have wonderful beautiful meaningful memorials at their grave sites. Bless this and all families who have and will suffer a tragedy. The image will be in his head for eternity and it wont go away. I'm happy with that. I do thank you for your comment.

I'm truly sorry for your loss. I do agree about the hate. This man has to have a mental problem of some sort not just drugs. As everyone can see by the comments made about the punishment this man should receive this is why we have the judicial system even if it does not seem to work as fast as we think it should.

seachele420 - 17 January 2008 01:13 PM

In the beginning I was angry and I still am , but have come to realize that I don't want him to recieve the
DEATH PENALTY!!!! My hope is that he recieve 4 LIFE SENTANCES WITH NO POSSIBILITY OF PAROLE!!!!
He will then have to go into the general population of the prison and face the inmates.

He will never be placed in the main population...not at the jail or in prison. Everyone knows...including law enforcement that he will die no questions about it if they did. People who commit crimes against women and children do not live behind bars....they die behind bars....it's only a matter of time. So this monster who killed his babies will be protected and to do this they will keep him away from the main population under close guard watch.
But I will hold on to hope that he gets the death penalty. If he lucks out and gets 4 life sentences without parole...that would be fine too....and I will still hold on to hope that, while backs are turned or eyes are closed, someone with nothing to lose will do what is right by these little Angels.
Either way....this monster is a walking dead man.

I can't image losing my children, and my heart goes out to the mother. She has to live with the fact that maybe she could have prevented this tragedy. She knew what kind of man he was and the things he was into. Yet, she continued to have babies by him and continued to stay with him. I know what it's like living in a foreign country (I have done so), but your children's safety should come first. Children can't defend themselves so it's up to the adults around them to protect them. Now, thanks to the uncle (who loves the camera) and the Vietnamese organizations who made sure that this was broadcast all over the country so that they could extort money from people, another child has been thrown from a bridge (overpass) in Hawaii. Stories like this bring out the evil in some people. These 4 children are being sensationalized by the ones who supposedly care, not memorialized.

trublu, I have a feeling your comments are going to be misconstrued, but frankly, I somewhat agree with you. I'm not sure I'm willing to put any blame on the mom though, simply because I know there are lots of women in the world who know they're in a dangerous situation but feel they are completely powerless to do anything about it. Intellectually we know that's not true, but emotionally many women in abusive relationships can't believe there's a way out or that they are in a position to leave.

I also don't think that the Vietnamese organizations are the ones who are pushing the media...I think journalists are quite capable and even skilled at doing that themselves.

However, I do think that this terrible tragedy has become more powerful than a news story, and more all-emcompassing than is healthy. Reaction to what has happened - especially the almost psychotic imagined retributions - yes, this is exactly how normal people, whipped into a frenzy by something they have no control over, eventually make a bad situation worse instead of better.

-nab

I know, personally, what it's like to be in a relationship in which you feel powerless. I'm not blaming the mom totally by any means, but she does need to take some, even a little, responsibility. She continued to have children. In regards to the Vietnamese organizations pushing this, it was either on TV or in the newpaper that the local "Boat People SOS" and Vietnamese churches were getting this out nationwide thru all Vietnamese radio stations, so they are pushing the media, as well. In this day and age everythings gets sensationalized because I guess there's so much pressure to "break the big story" or "get the first photos" and people forget about the human aspect. I truly hope they find the 4th baby soon so that they can all be laid to rest, and I hope the mother gets some much needed therapy to get thru all this.